men & psychotherapy

Male oppression teaches boys that vulnerability, tears, & emotional intimacy (especially with other males) is taboo. These relational prohibitions change the course of a man's social and psychological development. Many adult men remember shutting down after being bullied as boys (at home or by peers) because they did not display enough stoicism. When overwhelmed or scared by lifes' upheavals, males sometimes turn towards isolation, substances or social addictions, avoiding the comfort of their relationships.    

Cultural molding can lead to an abrasive life experience for men. Males  speak of feeling envy or fear of their female partners' capacity to cry and to support one another. When times are difficult a man might feel trapped in their relationship. Gay men are culturally victimized and may have lived life, even as children, feeling separate or marginilized by homophobia.

In our therapy you will learn to decrease alexythymia, a technical term for a lack (or fear) of feeling, and of understanding or describing feelings. We will also heal the pain of what may be an Avoidant Attachment style, so you become more securely attached in your relationships. 


Call or Email Judy Silvan, LICSW (LCSW CA #61755) in Cambridge, MA or Marin County, CA for help with:

Depression, Anxiety, PTSD, Attachment-Trauma, Individual Therapy, Couple Counseling, Marriage Therapy, Therapy for Men, Tween or Teen Therapy, Sibling Therapy, Mindfulness, Movement and Somatic Therapy, Yoga in Psychotherapy, Transgender & Transitions, Loss, Divorce, Grief, Clinical Supervision, Teaching, Consultation and more. Remote or Tele-Therapy also available.


or CALL 617-596-1403

to schedule an Initial Consultation.

Psychotherapy with a highy skilled, safe female allows defenses and knee-jerk relational avoidance to be soothed and calmed.  For men-- vulnerable states, relationships, closer communication, and "emotional intelligence" -- are the new brave.