Healing Attachment Trauma
"As our defenses are lowered, our heart opens, and there is a
natural desire to give from the generosity of the heart."— Ezra Bayda, "Giving Through Relationships"
Sometimes, we are racked with feelings shame, fear or grief, aloneness. We can snap into a state of 'less-than, 'different', or even self-loathing. Even if our childhood needs for protection, love and nurturance were not met back then, we can begin to flourish in our here-and-now lives. It only takes one special person, such as a partner, a "homey", someone from our family-of-origin, or even a trusted therapist who is unconditionally emotionally present to us, to launch us into a healing spiral and un-do the inner turmoil that happens when our childhood sense of safety and trust was badly broken. We seek minuscule answers to your most tender questions: We welcome your long-protected feelings with non-judgmental curiosity.
In therapy, I support you as you bravely ask for answers to questions about yourself and your closest relationships. I help you cherish yourself; we begin our search, together, for moment-to-moment clues for the real you hidden below the feelings of un-worthiness.
Here you are greeted by warm, safe eyes looking back at you as you share your personal memories, stories. We find the key that unlocks the door to feeling states that are too scary to visit alone. This alchemy can lead you straight to the heart of your own experiences of wisdom and delight.
Not only do my eyes reflect the loving guidance and sense of relief from deep inside of you, I also make it a point to explicitly ask you how each intervention lands: Together we focus on your experience with my guidance, as my expertise in healing attachment, developmental and other traumas allows us to both follow your cues, and to lead us towards breakthroughs.
